By Liz Blokdyk
As a social-emotional learning expert, I often emphasize the importance of validating a child’s emotions. Children experience a wide range of feelings, from joy and excitement to fear and sadness. How we, as caregivers and parents, respond to these emotions can significantly impact their emotional development and well-being.
When a child is agitated, upset, or sad, it’s natural for us to want to comfort them by saying, “You’re okay” or “Don’t worry.” While these words are meant to reassure, they can inadvertently dismiss the child’s experience. This can lead to feelings of confusion or frustration, as the child may feel their emotions are not being acknowledged or understood.
Instead of quickly trying to soothe with phrases that minimize their feelings, consider taking a moment to truly validate their experience. For example, if your child is visibly upset after losing a game, instead of saying, “It’s just a game, don’t worry,” try, “I can see that you’re really disappointed about losing. It’s okay to feel that way. Would you like a hug?”
By acknowledging their emotions, you’re telling your child that their feelings are valid and important. This not only helps them process their emotions but also fosters a sense of security and trust. They learn that it’s okay to express what they’re feeling and that you’re there to support them through it.
Another example could be when your child is feeling anxious about a new experience, like starting at a new school. Instead of saying, “There’s nothing to be scared of,” you might say, “I understand that starting at a new school can be really scary. How can I help you feel better about it?”
This approach opens the door for further conversation and allows your child to express what they need from you. Whether it’s a hug, a distraction, or just someone to listen, validating their feelings shows that you respect their emotional experience.
Validation is a powerful tool in helping children develop healthy emotional intelligence. By consistently acknowledging their feelings, you help them build resilience, self-awareness, and a deeper understanding of their emotions. In turn, this fosters stronger communication and trust between you and your child, setting the foundation for a healthy, supportive relationship
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